I had the pleasance this forenoon of conducting a videorecorded mock counseling session utilizing solution-focused methods. The DVD volition accompany the mo edition of a mass that I'm co-editing that covers a multifariousness of approaches to brief therapy.
I proceed to discovery that techniques from the brief therapy literature are useful inwards helping traders respond to the the world differently. The recorded session offered a dainty example of that.
The role-played client inwards my counseling session was immature lady Devon. She portrayed a part-time educatee who was working business office fourth dimension to brand coin for schoolhouse together with hit experience inwards her chosen patch of fashion merchandising. Recently she had establish it hard to teach herself to teach to work, because of conflicts alongside her managing director at a vesture boutique. Busy during the vacation flavor together with understaffed, the managing director was oft stressed out, together with Devon felt that the stress was taken out on her. In a recent episode, the managing director criticized Devon inwards front end of customers, making her experience stupid together with upset. Those feelings of belatedly had been interfering alongside Devon's schoolwork together with studying. Devon tried her best to avoid the managing director at those times, merely that didn't work.
When I asked Devon to charge per unit of measurement her electrical flow project on a scale from 1 to 10, where 1 was the worst she could perhaps experience inwards a project together with 10 was the absolute best she could feel, she responded that the electrical flow project was a four or 5. I expressed surprise at the rating together with asked Dev what she did on the project to brand her experience a four or 5, instead of a 1. She hence brightened upwards together with explained that she enjoyed helping people together with making them experience practiced together with she peculiarly liked the creative aspects of fashion merchandising: arranging displays, helping customers discovery novel looks, etc.
We discussed her *best* days on the project and, certain enough, they were days inwards which she drew upon her people strengths of engaging together with helping others together with her inventiveness inwards showing off wearing clothing that the boutique had purchased.
I asked Dev if customers always became stressed out together with took it out on her, together with she replied yes. But when I asked if she took it personally, she said that she didn't. Instead, she saw that the client was frustrated yesteryear a province of affairs (a garment didn't fit, or the client couldn't discovery something she wanted), together with that became a cue to aid the client out.
At the goal of the session, I asked Devon if she could utilization her inventiveness together with people skills inwards our counseling. I suggested that, when her managing director became stressed out, Devon genuinely sentiment the managing director every bit a customer. Instead of avoiding the managing director during such times, Devon would genuinely essay to discovery out what was incorrect together with offering assistance.
The thought was that, instead of focusing on coping alongside a problem, Devon could utilization the province of affairs to extend together with construct her skills.
It's a dainty example of how skillful coaches together with psychologists tin aid people sentiment work situations inwards novel ways together with discovery fresh solutions. Many times the answer to our problems is already occurring: during our periods of greatest fulfillment together with best performance.
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